When you’re co-parenting after divorce, you should expect that there will be some contention. If you and your ex can find a way to work through that and focus on what’s in your kids’ best interests, then you’ll likely find that things aren’t as stressful. Things may be a bit more challenging if your co-parent is a narcissist. You may find that you’re not going to be able to count on them to meet you in the middle.
Trying to co-parent with a narcissist isn’t easy. There are a lot of extra factors that you have to consider in these cases. Remembering these tips might be beneficial.
They focus on themselves
A narcissistic person isn’t capable of thinking of others. Instead, they make decisions based on what’s best for them. This mindset makes co-parenting hard because it’s unlikely that your narcissistic ex will put your kids’ needs and wants in front of their own.
They twist the truth
A narcissist lives in their own world. They will twist the truth to try to get others to see situations their way. It’s usually best to keep proof of things that might come into question later because of this. For example, if you pay for the child’s gymnastics lessons, keep those receipts.
They get power from reactions
Narcissists need to feel as though they’re in control. They will use their antics to try to get you to react to them so they can feel as though they’re powerful. Don’t empower your ex by reacting to what they say or do when you’re in their presence. Keep a straight face when you’re around them and then react when you’re alone.
The parenting plan is one of the best things you can have when you co-parent with a narcissistic individual. Be sure that it’s thorough and detailed to minimize the chance of disputes arising down the road.