When you go through a divorce and you share children with your ex, you’re going to have to continue to communicate with each other even after the paperwork is finalized. Being able to co-parent with your ex can benefit your children and could make things less stressful for you. There are some points to remember if you want this to work.
Speaking directly to your co-parent helps you to avoid the possibility of messages being misconstrued. You shouldn’t ever rely on the children to relay messages. Having to be the go-between for their parents is difficult and can put them in an awkward place.
Nothing is ever going to go according to plan all the time. Instead of trying to force things to go in a set way, be willing to be flexible with your co-parent. For example, if they need to get the kids a day early to go on a vacation, work with them on it. This sets a good example for the children and makes life much easier.
You and your ex must be able to respect each other. This includes respecting the time you each have with the children. As time progresses, it could mean respecting the fact that new relationships are forming. Supporting each other can help your children to see that you do have their best interests at heart.
It’s imperative that you have the parenting plan set as soon as possible. This helps to set the standards for co-parenting and serves as a way to help the children have the stability they need. Your attorney can help you as you negotiate this document with your co-parent.