One of the primary benefits of co-parenting in The Digital Age is the ability to engage in meaningful so-called virtual visitation. Virtual visitation, which involves communicating with your child when they are residing with your ex, has become an increasingly popular and practical component of parenting plans, especially when physical visitation is challenging due to distance, work schedules or other complex circumstances. Depending on your child’s age and communication style, you could use video chats, texting, bedtime reading apps and a host of other electronic and non-electronic resources in this regard.
Integrating virtual visitation into your parenting plan can enhance your connection with your child and help you to better maintain a consistent presence in their life. With that said, because consistency is key in maintaining a strong parent-child relationship, you’ll want to outline the terms of your arrangement and general expectations for all parties in your parenting plan before launching into scheduled communications. Otherwise, your approach won’t be enforceable and you and your child could unintentionally get hurt as a result of an ill-prepared approach.
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When outlining virtual visitation expectations in your parenting plan, you’ll want to set up regular times for virtual visits, just as you would for in-person visits. This creates a routine that your child can look forward to and rely on.
You’ll also want to take advantage of various communication platforms like video calls (Skype, Zoom, FaceTime), instant messaging, emails and social media. Choose platforms that are age-appropriate and easy for your child to use. Keep their attention span and communication style in mind as well. Leave room in the phrasing of your parenting plan provisions so that you can adjust which resources you’ll rely on as technology evolves and your child’s needs change.
Finally, take virtual visits by engaging in activities. You can read a book, play an online game, watch a movie together or even cook the same recipe simultaneously. This can make the time spent together more meaningful and enjoyable.
