There are cases where women do not want to put in the necessary amount of effort to see their marriages succeed. Most of them choose to leave their husbands and go back to stay with parents. To get re-married, they will file a false lawsuit against their husbands and thus put all manner of false accusations against them. 

Since the judiciary is slow in such cases, you, the husband, may have a hard time balancing work and court. You will, therefore, choose to ‘buy’ your freedom by accepting to pay alimony. In this way, you will also be ‘buying’ the divorce. 

While this scenario is real, it is not usually as common as most people think. The main reason why more men pay alimony than women is that they earn more money. According to Mass, the general rule is that the alimony-payer is the partner with the highest income. Due to the gender-norms and stereotypes, women get held back from having a career to maintain the home and raise the children. 

Today, there are more men receiving spousal support than before. The 2000 census found that only 0.5% of divorced men received spousal support. In 2010, the number increased to 12,000 compared to 380,000 women. Even with alimony payments, it is likely that you will continue to acquire more wealth after the divorce than your ex-wife. 

It would be best if you kept in mind that the one who stays in the home also contributes to the household in fundamental and valuable ways, even though they do not generate income.